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Teach me how to love unconditional and your heart will never be empty. December 27, 2009

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In thinking of years past and lessons learned, about love, life, joy and so many other things, my thoughts finally turned to one almost forgotten lesson. Or should I say the teacher that taught me how to love again without meaning to or asking for anything more then a little compassion.

That being a kitten of gray, black and white color named Kai, one of three kittens and one that no one liked including myself until he won me over. This little guy was just having fun running around and playing on my bed one day when I was cleaning and sorting through some papers.

He saw great fun in making a big mess of everything but quickly changed my mind when I picked up the papers to throw them out. He showed off a sweet side I didn’t know about, after having seen a side of the little guy I’d never seen before I quickly found a new friend that brought no end of laughter and love.

One day in particular I was busy working on completing an article when he found the clothes hamper and fall in scaring himself. When I pulled him out and I had to let him know that he was all right and loved just any child likes to know when he or she hurts him/herself.

It made me think of how even when we have grown into adults we still need to show ourselves that kind of love when we have fallen down. So many times we don’t do that most important and needed little thing, nor do we treat ourselves with the care that you would give to a child.

When you are happy or when sad, mad or glad, you still need to know you are loved and especially so when you’ve fallen. Think of the things you would do for a friend when they are hurting or have themselves fallen down or think of the things you would say to a child.

You can do some of those same things for yourself, you can take care of yourself the way you do others.

Love, like happiness or joy starts with oneself and if you want to love another and/or take care of another. Start taking care of, and loving yourself first, the rest really follows pretty easily, in fact when you learn to treat yourself the way you would treat a best friend. You not only can become your own best friend but you will also find it a lot easier to love someone else.

Unconditional love works the same way, you have to love yourself unconditionally before you can love another unconditionally. There was a lesson for in that very same subject with kitten Kai. Because this kitty wasn’t one that any other person really liked because even though he was really sweet.

He could be OVERLY sweet and didn’t ever stop being sweet, in fact he rather liked to get under foot and want to be petted for hours, when your busy or sleeping. Though the second lesson that stands out brightly for me now is to love despite little corks and despite what others see.

Only you see the things in the people, pets and things you love, only you will ever feel the way you do from loving those things, people and pets. At the same time you will learn to love both the good and the bad, even the 4 AM wake up calls just to be petted or for food or just to say I love you and want you to know.

Every thing and everyone has there ups and downs including yourself but that doesn’t mean you should them or yourself any less. When you love yourself as unconditionally, it means taking the good with the bad and loving yourself and others and realizing that’s what makes you who you are and another person who they are.

Fall in love with the inner critic. November 15, 2009

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The other day I got my time zones mixed up and missed a training call I wanted to listen in on, that was all right. Because I ended up listening to a different audio that I had but never had the time to listen to it, so since I had this free hour anyway I used it on that.

It was about money and your relationship with it, and how women see money different then men do, in terms of it being a relationship. If you have trouble getting or keeping money in your life it’s very likely because of a limiting belief to do with money.

Which means you need to create a better relationship with it and release the beliefs you have so they stop causing you trouble. There have been points in my life where I’ll want to reach for a goal bigger then normal and I would hear the inner critic sounding off.

I had to search out the source of that negative little voice in my head saying, You know you can’t do that. The trouble I found with it is that it was one of my loved ones sounding off in my head, meaning to keep me from hurt or failure.

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That person would say you have all of these other steps to take first, and many of those would revolve around money. Like, “Yeah but you have to have money for that; to me it just sounded like the person didn’t believe in me and that’s what it can sound like.

Even though it wasn’t actually being said, as people we tend to take things differently then the way they were said. Since I didn’t feel supported I kept hearing critical words saying the opposite of what I needed to hear and really it would come from within.
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Accepting gratitude and appreciation. October 14, 2009

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A very important thing about giving and receiving is; when you give do so from your heart and when you receive do so with gratitude. Another thing that goes hand in hand with showing or giving appreciation or gratitude, would be to accept it from the same feeling it was giving.

For some accepting thanks does not come easy so working up to it with small steps is something you can do and remind of the energy involved. When you help someone most people like to show their appreciation for what you did for them in form or another.

If you think about any of the times you are someone you know has been thanked for something they did for another. You would most likely remember saying or hearing someone having said
“No problem or Don’t mention it or even It was nothing or just Sure.

Saying those kind of things comes naturally to most of us but no one realizes what that giving thanks is a form of energy. What that means is that when you say something like “ah it was nothing” you really mean it and don’t actually accept either the thanks or the energy, in fact you push it away.

So you are not in fact accepting the gift that would otherwise come to you in return for something you did for another. So you will have effectively stopped the energy from coming to you and only those who say that others don’t appreciate them feel the lack don’t realize they are the cause.

Giving and receiving energy is important because it keeps it passing on from person to person and it does so anyone or thing you pass by. So it keeps the energy going around so that it becomes bigger and bigger building momentum and abundance as it goes.

Not to mention that acknowledging and accepting of someone’s appreciation of you allows them to feel good too. It gives them a good sense of self and of self worth as well, while sending the high energy of gratitude out to the world at large, and the energy builds that much more.

That one thing alone makes it all worth it but if you will not do it for yourself, you can do it for another. Though in the end you are still doing it for yourself because what goes around comes around again.

Without the giving and receiving of energy through thanks there is no passing it on to another person nor is there any no build. What you have is stuck energy and no appreciation for your own self worth, because it actually puts you down more then you know.

Energy is everywhere in every place and always moving, however you can effetely stop energy from it’s natural flow. Simply by doing certain things a certain way, such as not receiving gratitude or appreciation or by making little of the situation, it lowers the energy.

Some times people do so without even realizing that they are even doing it, while others do so just because it was an example picked up as a child. However no matter why it is done and rather it is done with or without conscious knowledge of it being done, it still effects self worth.

It also has an effect your on self-esteem as well by not acknowledging the good you do and it is not being loving to self either. So know that when you stop giving or receiving/accepting gratitude or appreciation it lowers both the energy going out and the energy coming in.

It may at times stop the energy coming to you altogether because no one wants to be around someone who is negative. Or is not very grateful, a great example of that would be when you give an ungrateful person a gift they might say something like; Well that’s great but I already have that!

Imagine someone actually saying that to you, think about how that would feel and the kind of energy that would follow. Whatever you say, do or think all has an energy of it’s own and you have the power to create the kind ungrateful energy anyone else does.

You also have the power to create the kind of energy that will bring more of what you want through your feelings. It is up to you to decide just what it is that you want more of and what kind of energy you would rather be enjoying.

Though one things for sure you can make it a lot better for everyone for by giving them the gift of loving energy and appreciation.
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Be that which you want August 20, 2009

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When I grow up I’m get married to the man/woman of my dreams and I’m going to be healthy wealthy, wise and live happily ever after. Sound like anything you have ever thought or said or even heard a friend or a child say?

It doesn’t really matter where your at in life, who your with, how old you are, how tall or short you are. No matter what kind of job you have or what your dreams might be, everything wants pretty much the same thing in life.

To be happy, healthy and wealthy but with life the way it is these days you start working any job you can get. Starting in high school and even if you don’t like it it’s still money and you need it so you do it.

After that it’s into college if you’re lucky and once again usually working any job you can get to pay for tuition. Once you get out of college you can’t always get the kind of job you want and then you get stuck with another job you don’t like.

Then you meet someone who you like and what do you know? The feeling is mutual! You date away then decide to get married. Then there’s a house to buy and payments for everything you can think of from car or truck payment to house payment etc.

Then children come along and before you know it life is flying by you and you don’t any of the things you wanted. Your not anything you wanted to be and your WHERE you wanted to be in your life either.

Sure your married and you have a nice family and a house but with working a job you don’t like and not making enough. Your not happy and because you have to work long hours just to put food on the table you don’t get out enough.

So your health isn’t what it could be or even should be, this is where life sadly enough finds a lot of people these days. Then there are always searching for the things they want that they don’t have like happiness.

Some don’t even get married or have a nice house or the money they want to have either but they have happiness. Some people want love or health or wealth or happiness because not many have all of them at once.

Not everyone wants or needs the same things and so naturally not everything everyone wants falls under the same category. More often then not someone wants love, happiness, joy, peace, prosperity and abundance.

No matter what you want in life something’s can be gotten but it is you that has to give them to yourself. Not someone else because of what we want we already have don’t even know it and we can give it to self.

Other times you need to be what you or in other words, “Be the change you want to see.; you need to think it. Act it, walk it, talk it, see it, breath it and feel it in order to have it, you have must create it.

See most things start in the mind anyway and if you start there you can build it up slowly little step by little step. So if you want it become it and you will have it and find that you have had it all along and didn’t even know it.

So in order to create it, think about what you want, so let us say that it is love you want, feel love even if you don’t believe it’s there. See love, in yourself and be loving and kind to yourself and to others, that’s acting it.

Walk it, take good care of yourself, because you will be able to take care of others that same way someday. It all has to start with you and if you can not love yourself or be loving to yourself then you are no good to another.

See it, look for something to love in yourself and in others and even the people you don’t care for that is your biggest challenge. When you can find even a little bit of love in someone whom you do not care for then you know it’s working.

Speak love in little ways and when you breath in imagine you are breathing in love and feel it so that when you do this automatically. You will know that you are on your way to being what you wanted in the first place and can get it from another because you are no longer “wanting” it.

Because you have, you are it and when people want something all they ever seem to get is more wanting. Never actually ever get it so when you become it you don’t have the want because you are it and you can get it so much easier.

So work with that for a while and not just in that area but use it for the other things that you want that it will work for.

Taking the negative out of the situation August 6, 2009

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Have you ever found yourself putting to much of your focused attention on the negative even though you knew you shouldn’t be doing so? It seems that no matter how positive the person is, at one time or another you can still find yourself seeing the negative from time to time.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will be changed as a result.” Those are never truer words are words I hear so often. If you were to change the way you were looking at something it would change as a direct result of that.

It is our perception of something that makes it what it is, because it is neither positive nor negative and how we see it makes it so. It is said that our DNA, thoughts and emotions have an effect on our surroundings, then it is by our very perception that our reality is created.

If the reality is either positive or negative it is only so because that is what is created by us alone, so the quote above is correct. I had all but forgotten something that always removes the negative side of things for me and allowed me to look beyond what I normally see.

Those are the words that everything you see is perfect, be the situation and circumstances good or bad they are somehow, perfect. In reading those words and remembering to look at things like that once again I realized that in everything that was going on there was so much positive in it.

Sure I wasn’t able to connect to the internet with my computer until it got fixed but feeling that somehow everything was perfect. That it all was exactly as it should be allowed me to stop putting my attention on the things I perceived to be negative.

More then that it allowed me to look at the things I saw as negative and say that if they were negative somehow they were as they should be. So if they were as they should be then what else was there to see instead and I started really looking closely at everything else.

I was then able to really see all that was positive there that I didn’t see before, because I didn’t allow myself to do so. There is always lots more to see if you allow yourself to see it, but when your focusing on the negative your picture is thus limited.

Your really not seeing the whole picture when you focus on the negative, maybe you are not seeing the whole picture if you focus on the positive. It certainly is a better picture to see but it does not mean that you are not able to see everything even then either.

All it really means is that you are seeing the brightest side of the picture and it gives you more clarity to see everything. In its true form, it’s like when you are seeing only one side of something you are missing the best part.

When you focus on the negative you block any and all energy from coming and going so that nothing moves, it just stays the same. If it’s blocked there isn’t any balance and there must be a balance between positive and negative.

If you were trying to manifest something it would not easy to do simply because you are blocking the energy needed to bring it to you. Because you are only seeing one of side things and that side being by far lesser of the sides to see, the negative side.

All you will get from that is more of the same and more negative then you bargained for, that is why change is so important to us. One small and simply change like the way you see and perceive things to be can be an easy answer to the problem.

Acceptance of a situation as is be it good or not so good releases negativity around the situation and allows you to see too good in it. More often then not you are to close to any situation to see clearly until it is past.

If you were to ask someone looking at it from the outside they will have better judgment on the subject then yourself. An outsider sees the whole picture instead of just seeing one side of it and total acceptance of the situation will do the same for you.

That is the beauty of seeing things as they are and feeling and thinking that they are perfect because it allows you to distance yourself. The distance can bring new insight and release negative feelings around any situation and let you see the whole picture.

Removing yourself farther from the situation is how you stand back and look at a picture and when you do that. You are able to learn whatever lessons that were in the perceived “bad” situation.

Don’t wait for something to come along to knock you down before you will step back and see the whole picture. Look for the beauty in everything and accept what is for what it is and if you still can’t see the positive then ask for an outside opinion.

There is something in good in everything that is seemly bad and some times all you have to do is remove yourself a bit. Though trust my word on this it’s there.