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Teach me how to love unconditional and your heart will never be empty. December 27, 2009

Posted by Gaylena in Empowerment.
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In thinking of years past and lessons learned, about love, life, joy and so many other things, my thoughts finally turned to one almost forgotten lesson. Or should I say the teacher that taught me how to love again without meaning to or asking for anything more then a little compassion.

That being a kitten of gray, black and white color named Kai, one of three kittens and one that no one liked including myself until he won me over. This little guy was just having fun running around and playing on my bed one day when I was cleaning and sorting through some papers.

He saw great fun in making a big mess of everything but quickly changed my mind when I picked up the papers to throw them out. He showed off a sweet side I didn’t know about, after having seen a side of the little guy I’d never seen before I quickly found a new friend that brought no end of laughter and love.

One day in particular I was busy working on completing an article when he found the clothes hamper and fall in scaring himself. When I pulled him out and I had to let him know that he was all right and loved just any child likes to know when he or she hurts him/herself.

It made me think of how even when we have grown into adults we still need to show ourselves that kind of love when we have fallen down. So many times we don’t do that most important and needed little thing, nor do we treat ourselves with the care that you would give to a child.

When you are happy or when sad, mad or glad, you still need to know you are loved and especially so when you’ve fallen. Think of the things you would do for a friend when they are hurting or have themselves fallen down or think of the things you would say to a child.

You can do some of those same things for yourself, you can take care of yourself the way you do others.

Love, like happiness or joy starts with oneself and if you want to love another and/or take care of another. Start taking care of, and loving yourself first, the rest really follows pretty easily, in fact when you learn to treat yourself the way you would treat a best friend. You not only can become your own best friend but you will also find it a lot easier to love someone else.

Unconditional love works the same way, you have to love yourself unconditionally before you can love another unconditionally. There was a lesson for in that very same subject with kitten Kai. Because this kitty wasn’t one that any other person really liked because even though he was really sweet.

He could be OVERLY sweet and didn’t ever stop being sweet, in fact he rather liked to get under foot and want to be petted for hours, when your busy or sleeping. Though the second lesson that stands out brightly for me now is to love despite little corks and despite what others see.

Only you see the things in the people, pets and things you love, only you will ever feel the way you do from loving those things, people and pets. At the same time you will learn to love both the good and the bad, even the 4 AM wake up calls just to be petted or for food or just to say I love you and want you to know.

Every thing and everyone has there ups and downs including yourself but that doesn’t mean you should them or yourself any less. When you love yourself as unconditionally, it means taking the good with the bad and loving yourself and others and realizing that’s what makes you who you are and another person who they are.

Be that which you want August 20, 2009

Posted by Gaylena in Empowerment, Positive change.
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When I grow up I’m get married to the man/woman of my dreams and I’m going to be healthy wealthy, wise and live happily ever after. Sound like anything you have ever thought or said or even heard a friend or a child say?

It doesn’t really matter where your at in life, who your with, how old you are, how tall or short you are. No matter what kind of job you have or what your dreams might be, everything wants pretty much the same thing in life.

To be happy, healthy and wealthy but with life the way it is these days you start working any job you can get. Starting in high school and even if you don’t like it it’s still money and you need it so you do it.

After that it’s into college if you’re lucky and once again usually working any job you can get to pay for tuition. Once you get out of college you can’t always get the kind of job you want and then you get stuck with another job you don’t like.

Then you meet someone who you like and what do you know? The feeling is mutual! You date away then decide to get married. Then there’s a house to buy and payments for everything you can think of from car or truck payment to house payment etc.

Then children come along and before you know it life is flying by you and you don’t any of the things you wanted. Your not anything you wanted to be and your WHERE you wanted to be in your life either.

Sure your married and you have a nice family and a house but with working a job you don’t like and not making enough. Your not happy and because you have to work long hours just to put food on the table you don’t get out enough.

So your health isn’t what it could be or even should be, this is where life sadly enough finds a lot of people these days. Then there are always searching for the things they want that they don’t have like happiness.

Some don’t even get married or have a nice house or the money they want to have either but they have happiness. Some people want love or health or wealth or happiness because not many have all of them at once.

Not everyone wants or needs the same things and so naturally not everything everyone wants falls under the same category. More often then not someone wants love, happiness, joy, peace, prosperity and abundance.

No matter what you want in life something’s can be gotten but it is you that has to give them to yourself. Not someone else because of what we want we already have don’t even know it and we can give it to self.

Other times you need to be what you or in other words, “Be the change you want to see.; you need to think it. Act it, walk it, talk it, see it, breath it and feel it in order to have it, you have must create it.

See most things start in the mind anyway and if you start there you can build it up slowly little step by little step. So if you want it become it and you will have it and find that you have had it all along and didn’t even know it.

So in order to create it, think about what you want, so let us say that it is love you want, feel love even if you don’t believe it’s there. See love, in yourself and be loving and kind to yourself and to others, that’s acting it.

Walk it, take good care of yourself, because you will be able to take care of others that same way someday. It all has to start with you and if you can not love yourself or be loving to yourself then you are no good to another.

See it, look for something to love in yourself and in others and even the people you don’t care for that is your biggest challenge. When you can find even a little bit of love in someone whom you do not care for then you know it’s working.

Speak love in little ways and when you breath in imagine you are breathing in love and feel it so that when you do this automatically. You will know that you are on your way to being what you wanted in the first place and can get it from another because you are no longer “wanting” it.

Because you have, you are it and when people want something all they ever seem to get is more wanting. Never actually ever get it so when you become it you don’t have the want because you are it and you can get it so much easier.

So work with that for a while and not just in that area but use it for the other things that you want that it will work for.