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Focus on the good stuff and meet happiness in the middle. December 22, 2009

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The holiday season is upon us, the one thing I have picked up highly from everyone, there has been to much focus on the negative. Or what you don’t like and/or want, we all have a family member or a relative who we put up with, someone that speaks very loudly or puts his/her feet in everyone’s way. Or maybe someone’s cooking you don’t like.

I see to much stress and people thinking about the aspects they don’t like and little or no focus on what’s positive.  One of my all time favorite movie’s is a Knight’s Tale, comes to mind here, it is the story of a man who is a commoner and has a dream of becoming a knight.

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Live fully who you are through your spirit November 20, 2009

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I love things that come from the heart such as a well written poem or a true story or any number of things. That kind of things usually goes straight to the heart of the person reading and speaks directly to not only the heart but the soul and often times the spirit as well.

That is something that my friend Geoff Laughton does with his teachings, in improving your relationship with yourself and others. By giving you fully back to yourself and allowing you to live through your spiritual guidance with more freedom, peace and joy.

Just by simply living from the guidance of your spirit it gives the relationship you have with yourself and others more fulfillment. Personally I have to say that his work is very thought provoking and enlightening as well as allowing for us to become more insightful.

There is a big difference between living from spirit and living by what I would call living by default. One you are by your higher self for your highest good and create your life by your own design instead of living day to day and letting what comes your way, come.

This kind of living leads to feelings of being alone and depressed with no one on your side when the going gets tough. There is little or no joy and freedom can feel non existent and the difference with living your spirit is being your own best friend.

Your more attuned to life and able to allow in the good stuff that is naturally yours anyway, things that seemed difficult before. Are easy to handle because there is no longer the disharmony of self that there was before that caused anxious feelings before.

Over the last few years I learned that if we are not deeply connected to our spirit and let it guide our path in life it can seem like it’s all gray skys. That the sun isn’t shining even when it is and then you are living your life on default and not on purpose.

Your communication and relationship and everything else in life isn’t as good as can be when you are allow spirit to guide you. You really have to broke through your barrier and be who you truly are, life is so much more rich and full with so much more meaning and beauty to it.

Getting back to You is something that is very important.

That is what my good friend Geoff Laughton, helps others do so well, do check out his blog at http://geofflaughton.typepad.com/spirited_musings/  that’s got some great posts you will want to check out.

He also has a fan page which you can find at http://www.facebook.com/LivingYourSpiritNow and you can see what he is up to on a day to day basis. You can ask any questions and get them answered as he checks it daily. Don’t forget to check out his awesome new web site  http://geofflaughton.com/

Wishing you live your life guided by your spirit, love and blessings.

Journey’s end time to begin anew September 17, 2009

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When the door closes on something good do you stand looking at the closed door so long and miss the open door? It is usually because you fear change so you stand and wait hoping against all hope that the closed door will reopen and let you back in.

Only once it is closed it will never open to you again because everything you needed to learn from it you already have. There is nothing more for you there but to pick up and move on but what you may not realize is that the closed door caused change too.

So even though you don’t want change and are scared of it you still get it whether or not you want it. It doesn’t matter what way you look at it the closed door behind you is change in and of itself as is the open door in front of you.

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So you try to hold onto the close door as long as you can because you know it and all it holds but the new door you do not. Since it is unexplored who knows what it might hold for you and some times you would rather not chance it.

In childhood I use to hold onto the good times with all my might never wanting to let go for anything. Because I found change so scary and thought that good times were few and far in between.

When I was five or six years old there was almost always places to go and people to visit, friends, cousins and grandparents. As I got older those times that were so fun became fewer and fewer so I started to miss them more and more.

Whenever someone would stop by for a while and leave I got a huge sense of loss and didn’t want them to leave. As I got a bit older I started hating those times and didn’t want to see anyone anymore hoping to not feel the emptiness it left behind.

So much so that I started hating any change big or small and would dig in my feet against anything I didn’t like. Or something that had the appearance of bringing change along with it and when something did I always wanted it to go back to what it had been.

To that degree some of us fear change because at a young age if it gives you a strong painful emotion. An emotion you don’t know how to deal with that comes from change so you will always fear change and be afraid of anything that is in any way related to it.

Thus you get a strong sense of dread whenever you start a new journey or think you are going to start a new journey. Usually you stop yourself from moving forward because you try to hold onto something that you feel is good not wanting to loss it.

At the end of every journey another one begins and at the end you are not only saying good bye to something good. You are also saying good bye to a part of you that you were and no longer need so you can become more.

doorwayOnly the release of good bye can allow you to move on and become more and be who you are meant to be. Journeys end does not have to be sad unless you make it that way instead it can be a joy of saying thank you for all I was and learned and will become.

You can say good bye with happiness for all the journey has brought you and for the wonderfully thought of what is to come. When one door closes another one opens and when you have completed a journey are about to say good bye and move on say thank you for everything.

Let everything that you saw, felt, thought and experienced come to mind and be grateful for it all and move forward. I look forward to every new beginning and gratefully say good bye because there is always one person that come with me on every journey.

That person I know I will always get to take with me no matter what and that person becomes better with every passing day. That person to me is of course me and when you look in the mirror the person that goes with you on all your own journeys is YOU.

Beautiful wonderful you! Always love the person you are and be grateful that you will always be there for everything.

So has ended for me a journey that seems I started a lifetime ago now and yet it wasn’t so long at all.  Now I joyfully start a new one that is even more amazing then the one before because of all the changes I see in myself and in life surrounding.

There is much beauty to see when you are in between the ending of one journey and the beginning of a new one. Look around you the color of everything is brighter and the things you see every day or brighter.

Every has looks the same but has somehow changed because it is you that has changed and when you do. Everything else changes with you, because it is all you and always has been and always will be.

Take a good look.

Be that which you want August 20, 2009

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When I grow up I’m get married to the man/woman of my dreams and I’m going to be healthy wealthy, wise and live happily ever after. Sound like anything you have ever thought or said or even heard a friend or a child say?

It doesn’t really matter where your at in life, who your with, how old you are, how tall or short you are. No matter what kind of job you have or what your dreams might be, everything wants pretty much the same thing in life.

To be happy, healthy and wealthy but with life the way it is these days you start working any job you can get. Starting in high school and even if you don’t like it it’s still money and you need it so you do it.

After that it’s into college if you’re lucky and once again usually working any job you can get to pay for tuition. Once you get out of college you can’t always get the kind of job you want and then you get stuck with another job you don’t like.

Then you meet someone who you like and what do you know? The feeling is mutual! You date away then decide to get married. Then there’s a house to buy and payments for everything you can think of from car or truck payment to house payment etc.

Then children come along and before you know it life is flying by you and you don’t any of the things you wanted. Your not anything you wanted to be and your WHERE you wanted to be in your life either.

Sure your married and you have a nice family and a house but with working a job you don’t like and not making enough. Your not happy and because you have to work long hours just to put food on the table you don’t get out enough.

So your health isn’t what it could be or even should be, this is where life sadly enough finds a lot of people these days. Then there are always searching for the things they want that they don’t have like happiness.

Some don’t even get married or have a nice house or the money they want to have either but they have happiness. Some people want love or health or wealth or happiness because not many have all of them at once.

Not everyone wants or needs the same things and so naturally not everything everyone wants falls under the same category. More often then not someone wants love, happiness, joy, peace, prosperity and abundance.

No matter what you want in life something’s can be gotten but it is you that has to give them to yourself. Not someone else because of what we want we already have don’t even know it and we can give it to self.

Other times you need to be what you or in other words, “Be the change you want to see.; you need to think it. Act it, walk it, talk it, see it, breath it and feel it in order to have it, you have must create it.

See most things start in the mind anyway and if you start there you can build it up slowly little step by little step. So if you want it become it and you will have it and find that you have had it all along and didn’t even know it.

So in order to create it, think about what you want, so let us say that it is love you want, feel love even if you don’t believe it’s there. See love, in yourself and be loving and kind to yourself and to others, that’s acting it.

Walk it, take good care of yourself, because you will be able to take care of others that same way someday. It all has to start with you and if you can not love yourself or be loving to yourself then you are no good to another.

See it, look for something to love in yourself and in others and even the people you don’t care for that is your biggest challenge. When you can find even a little bit of love in someone whom you do not care for then you know it’s working.

Speak love in little ways and when you breath in imagine you are breathing in love and feel it so that when you do this automatically. You will know that you are on your way to being what you wanted in the first place and can get it from another because you are no longer “wanting” it.

Because you have, you are it and when people want something all they ever seem to get is more wanting. Never actually ever get it so when you become it you don’t have the want because you are it and you can get it so much easier.

So work with that for a while and not just in that area but use it for the other things that you want that it will work for.