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Creating your future one day at a time December 12, 2009

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Some time back now I watched a really good movie that I hadn’t seen before and learned some really good lessons from. Paycheck, if you haven’t seen it before I highly recommend it, or if you have you might want to watch from a different perspective.

It is a really good movie and it has some really thought provoking points in it, the one that really stood out and caught my attention was when the main character said that we don’t need to see the future because it robs us of hope.

Not only that, he said that when we are able to see our future and don’t like something about it we would want to change it. Or you might find yourself wanting to avoid it avoid it altogether, so as not to face it at all.

Seeing the future is how things could have been messed up seriously in the movie and if you were to put that example to your life. You can easily see that the same messed up circumstances could happen in your own life if you knew what to expect and wanted to change things.

Think about it if you knew what was going to happen in the future would you still do the same things? I bet not and what if those things that you may not like so much were meant to happen for very important reasons.

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Fall in love with the inner critic. November 15, 2009

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The other day I got my time zones mixed up and missed a training call I wanted to listen in on, that was all right. Because I ended up listening to a different audio that I had but never had the time to listen to it, so since I had this free hour anyway I used it on that.

It was about money and your relationship with it, and how women see money different then men do, in terms of it being a relationship. If you have trouble getting or keeping money in your life it’s very likely because of a limiting belief to do with money.

Which means you need to create a better relationship with it and release the beliefs you have so they stop causing you trouble. There have been points in my life where I’ll want to reach for a goal bigger then normal and I would hear the inner critic sounding off.

I had to search out the source of that negative little voice in my head saying, You know you can’t do that. The trouble I found with it is that it was one of my loved ones sounding off in my head, meaning to keep me from hurt or failure.

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That person would say you have all of these other steps to take first, and many of those would revolve around money. Like, “Yeah but you have to have money for that; to me it just sounded like the person didn’t believe in me and that’s what it can sound like.

Even though it wasn’t actually being said, as people we tend to take things differently then the way they were said. Since I didn’t feel supported I kept hearing critical words saying the opposite of what I needed to hear and really it would come from within.
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Journey’s end time to begin anew September 17, 2009

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When the door closes on something good do you stand looking at the closed door so long and miss the open door? It is usually because you fear change so you stand and wait hoping against all hope that the closed door will reopen and let you back in.

Only once it is closed it will never open to you again because everything you needed to learn from it you already have. There is nothing more for you there but to pick up and move on but what you may not realize is that the closed door caused change too.

So even though you don’t want change and are scared of it you still get it whether or not you want it. It doesn’t matter what way you look at it the closed door behind you is change in and of itself as is the open door in front of you.

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So you try to hold onto the close door as long as you can because you know it and all it holds but the new door you do not. Since it is unexplored who knows what it might hold for you and some times you would rather not chance it.

In childhood I use to hold onto the good times with all my might never wanting to let go for anything. Because I found change so scary and thought that good times were few and far in between.

When I was five or six years old there was almost always places to go and people to visit, friends, cousins and grandparents. As I got older those times that were so fun became fewer and fewer so I started to miss them more and more.

Whenever someone would stop by for a while and leave I got a huge sense of loss and didn’t want them to leave. As I got a bit older I started hating those times and didn’t want to see anyone anymore hoping to not feel the emptiness it left behind.

So much so that I started hating any change big or small and would dig in my feet against anything I didn’t like. Or something that had the appearance of bringing change along with it and when something did I always wanted it to go back to what it had been.

To that degree some of us fear change because at a young age if it gives you a strong painful emotion. An emotion you don’t know how to deal with that comes from change so you will always fear change and be afraid of anything that is in any way related to it.

Thus you get a strong sense of dread whenever you start a new journey or think you are going to start a new journey. Usually you stop yourself from moving forward because you try to hold onto something that you feel is good not wanting to loss it.

At the end of every journey another one begins and at the end you are not only saying good bye to something good. You are also saying good bye to a part of you that you were and no longer need so you can become more.

doorwayOnly the release of good bye can allow you to move on and become more and be who you are meant to be. Journeys end does not have to be sad unless you make it that way instead it can be a joy of saying thank you for all I was and learned and will become.

You can say good bye with happiness for all the journey has brought you and for the wonderfully thought of what is to come. When one door closes another one opens and when you have completed a journey are about to say good bye and move on say thank you for everything.

Let everything that you saw, felt, thought and experienced come to mind and be grateful for it all and move forward. I look forward to every new beginning and gratefully say good bye because there is always one person that come with me on every journey.

That person I know I will always get to take with me no matter what and that person becomes better with every passing day. That person to me is of course me and when you look in the mirror the person that goes with you on all your own journeys is YOU.

Beautiful wonderful you! Always love the person you are and be grateful that you will always be there for everything.

So has ended for me a journey that seems I started a lifetime ago now and yet it wasn’t so long at all.  Now I joyfully start a new one that is even more amazing then the one before because of all the changes I see in myself and in life surrounding.

There is much beauty to see when you are in between the ending of one journey and the beginning of a new one. Look around you the color of everything is brighter and the things you see every day or brighter.

Every has looks the same but has somehow changed because it is you that has changed and when you do. Everything else changes with you, because it is all you and always has been and always will be.

Take a good look.

Be that which you want August 20, 2009

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When I grow up I’m get married to the man/woman of my dreams and I’m going to be healthy wealthy, wise and live happily ever after. Sound like anything you have ever thought or said or even heard a friend or a child say?

It doesn’t really matter where your at in life, who your with, how old you are, how tall or short you are. No matter what kind of job you have or what your dreams might be, everything wants pretty much the same thing in life.

To be happy, healthy and wealthy but with life the way it is these days you start working any job you can get. Starting in high school and even if you don’t like it it’s still money and you need it so you do it.

After that it’s into college if you’re lucky and once again usually working any job you can get to pay for tuition. Once you get out of college you can’t always get the kind of job you want and then you get stuck with another job you don’t like.

Then you meet someone who you like and what do you know? The feeling is mutual! You date away then decide to get married. Then there’s a house to buy and payments for everything you can think of from car or truck payment to house payment etc.

Then children come along and before you know it life is flying by you and you don’t any of the things you wanted. Your not anything you wanted to be and your WHERE you wanted to be in your life either.

Sure your married and you have a nice family and a house but with working a job you don’t like and not making enough. Your not happy and because you have to work long hours just to put food on the table you don’t get out enough.

So your health isn’t what it could be or even should be, this is where life sadly enough finds a lot of people these days. Then there are always searching for the things they want that they don’t have like happiness.

Some don’t even get married or have a nice house or the money they want to have either but they have happiness. Some people want love or health or wealth or happiness because not many have all of them at once.

Not everyone wants or needs the same things and so naturally not everything everyone wants falls under the same category. More often then not someone wants love, happiness, joy, peace, prosperity and abundance.

No matter what you want in life something’s can be gotten but it is you that has to give them to yourself. Not someone else because of what we want we already have don’t even know it and we can give it to self.

Other times you need to be what you or in other words, “Be the change you want to see.; you need to think it. Act it, walk it, talk it, see it, breath it and feel it in order to have it, you have must create it.

See most things start in the mind anyway and if you start there you can build it up slowly little step by little step. So if you want it become it and you will have it and find that you have had it all along and didn’t even know it.

So in order to create it, think about what you want, so let us say that it is love you want, feel love even if you don’t believe it’s there. See love, in yourself and be loving and kind to yourself and to others, that’s acting it.

Walk it, take good care of yourself, because you will be able to take care of others that same way someday. It all has to start with you and if you can not love yourself or be loving to yourself then you are no good to another.

See it, look for something to love in yourself and in others and even the people you don’t care for that is your biggest challenge. When you can find even a little bit of love in someone whom you do not care for then you know it’s working.

Speak love in little ways and when you breath in imagine you are breathing in love and feel it so that when you do this automatically. You will know that you are on your way to being what you wanted in the first place and can get it from another because you are no longer “wanting” it.

Because you have, you are it and when people want something all they ever seem to get is more wanting. Never actually ever get it so when you become it you don’t have the want because you are it and you can get it so much easier.

So work with that for a while and not just in that area but use it for the other things that you want that it will work for.

Taking the negative out of the situation August 6, 2009

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Have you ever found yourself putting to much of your focused attention on the negative even though you knew you shouldn’t be doing so? It seems that no matter how positive the person is, at one time or another you can still find yourself seeing the negative from time to time.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will be changed as a result.” Those are never truer words are words I hear so often. If you were to change the way you were looking at something it would change as a direct result of that.

It is our perception of something that makes it what it is, because it is neither positive nor negative and how we see it makes it so. It is said that our DNA, thoughts and emotions have an effect on our surroundings, then it is by our very perception that our reality is created.

If the reality is either positive or negative it is only so because that is what is created by us alone, so the quote above is correct. I had all but forgotten something that always removes the negative side of things for me and allowed me to look beyond what I normally see.

Those are the words that everything you see is perfect, be the situation and circumstances good or bad they are somehow, perfect. In reading those words and remembering to look at things like that once again I realized that in everything that was going on there was so much positive in it.

Sure I wasn’t able to connect to the internet with my computer until it got fixed but feeling that somehow everything was perfect. That it all was exactly as it should be allowed me to stop putting my attention on the things I perceived to be negative.

More then that it allowed me to look at the things I saw as negative and say that if they were negative somehow they were as they should be. So if they were as they should be then what else was there to see instead and I started really looking closely at everything else.

I was then able to really see all that was positive there that I didn’t see before, because I didn’t allow myself to do so. There is always lots more to see if you allow yourself to see it, but when your focusing on the negative your picture is thus limited.

Your really not seeing the whole picture when you focus on the negative, maybe you are not seeing the whole picture if you focus on the positive. It certainly is a better picture to see but it does not mean that you are not able to see everything even then either.

All it really means is that you are seeing the brightest side of the picture and it gives you more clarity to see everything. In its true form, it’s like when you are seeing only one side of something you are missing the best part.

When you focus on the negative you block any and all energy from coming and going so that nothing moves, it just stays the same. If it’s blocked there isn’t any balance and there must be a balance between positive and negative.

If you were trying to manifest something it would not easy to do simply because you are blocking the energy needed to bring it to you. Because you are only seeing one of side things and that side being by far lesser of the sides to see, the negative side.

All you will get from that is more of the same and more negative then you bargained for, that is why change is so important to us. One small and simply change like the way you see and perceive things to be can be an easy answer to the problem.

Acceptance of a situation as is be it good or not so good releases negativity around the situation and allows you to see too good in it. More often then not you are to close to any situation to see clearly until it is past.

If you were to ask someone looking at it from the outside they will have better judgment on the subject then yourself. An outsider sees the whole picture instead of just seeing one side of it and total acceptance of the situation will do the same for you.

That is the beauty of seeing things as they are and feeling and thinking that they are perfect because it allows you to distance yourself. The distance can bring new insight and release negative feelings around any situation and let you see the whole picture.

Removing yourself farther from the situation is how you stand back and look at a picture and when you do that. You are able to learn whatever lessons that were in the perceived “bad” situation.

Don’t wait for something to come along to knock you down before you will step back and see the whole picture. Look for the beauty in everything and accept what is for what it is and if you still can’t see the positive then ask for an outside opinion.

There is something in good in everything that is seemly bad and some times all you have to do is remove yourself a bit. Though trust my word on this it’s there.

Facing the fear of change June 24, 2009

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Change is one of the constants in life and it is one of the most feared things as well. So while you understand that evolution is necessary and might very well want it, you still fear it nonetheless, and may even find yourself putting on the mental brakes when it comes to change.

Why is it that so many people want change and fear it at the same time? If nothing ever changes it will always be the same old thing day in and day out it can be pretty monotonousness.

The reason why most people fear is because like a child scared of the dark not knowing what might be out there you fear change for the reason. The mind (more…)