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Ego friend or foe? October 21, 2009

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Just recently I did some research on the subject of ego to get a better understanding of it and get someone else’s take on it. One thing I have to say is that if you do not befriend ego it can take over and run the whole show for you, with or without your say so.

Ego is really good at sabotaging your manifesting efforts with upstream thoughts; where you can feel that if you don’t get some certain things done you’re not moving forward. You might feel stuck in place not making progress.

When working but not at one my set goals it can leave you feeling that you are you’re not doing anything important. Ego usually has you doing things that you might not want to do simply to make the ego image of you seem complete.

John Eaton of Reverse thinking describes ego as {a false idea about what and who you are. It is an idea you took over from other people. It is never who you really are it is only what you “think” you are, but do not actually see yourself because of ego getting in the way.

Ego turns up in people’s lives in many different ways and forms and does so differently for everyone. Although there is one thing that many people hold on a collective level, they go after
Material things because it makes the ego happy for a while.

It worries about things and stresses about what hasn’t been done yet, it acts as a driving force to get things done. Ego likes or wants to be young beautiful or good looking, smart and  of course it always wants to be successful so it pushes you onward always.

“Your ego is a false idea about what and who you are. It is an idea you took over from other people.”

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It is no wonder that some want to be free of it or transcend it although however knowing all that I know about it I would rather align with it. You can treat it like a naughty child that did something wrong and is going to be grounded for it, it is a part of you like it or not.

You might think of it as the dark side of you and try to hide it away or worse yet try to hide from it and pretend it doesn’t exist. Align with it because it IS a part of you and you can work together with it you just have to learn to tell when it is trying to run the show.

1. Be present to your thoughts and know when it feels counter productive, going up stream. Feeling to hard.

2. Be aware of the reasons why you want to do things, is it because you want to impress others?

3. Pay attention to feelings of being left out or left behind others, it can bring resentment along with it for the ride. It is only another way ego plays its hand in your life.

4. Don’t take things personally, a favorite quote is “What others think of you is none of your business” only ego cares what others think of you. You’re authentic knows is secure in itself and what others say or think do not matter.

5. Constantly remind yourself that you are in this moment right where you need to be, you know the things you need to know.

It might seem like your dark side that you keep a locked up secret from others like a part of you that you don’t like. Maybe you feel that angry is somehow wrong or showing sadness is an unwanted thing so you hide it away from the world.

That ma not necessary be your dark side but you might feel that ego is like having a dark side so you don’t want to accept it. Accepting it is the best thing you can do, everyone has one and it’s not really a bad thing, I would suggest making it more of a welcomed part of you.

One way I suggest doing this is an exercise that intuitive guide and spiritual teacher Sonia Choquette suggests, called naming it. Make your ego a pet and give it a name, pick any animal you want that way it is no longer thought of as bad but as a cute pet that has a name.

Believe me you this works really great because whenever I know that ego is trying to have it’s say over things I do. I think of it as a cute animal and do things a little differently so that everything aligns with both authentic self and ego pet.

For more about John Eaton and Reverse thinking, go to http://reversethinking.typepad.com/weblog/2008/11/how-to-make-your-ego-unimportant.html

For more  Sonia Choquette go to http://www.soniachoquette.com/

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Accepting gratitude and appreciation. October 14, 2009

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A very important thing about giving and receiving is; when you give do so from your heart and when you receive do so with gratitude. Another thing that goes hand in hand with showing or giving appreciation or gratitude, would be to accept it from the same feeling it was giving.

For some accepting thanks does not come easy so working up to it with small steps is something you can do and remind of the energy involved. When you help someone most people like to show their appreciation for what you did for them in form or another.

If you think about any of the times you are someone you know has been thanked for something they did for another. You would most likely remember saying or hearing someone having said
“No problem or Don’t mention it or even It was nothing or just Sure.

Saying those kind of things comes naturally to most of us but no one realizes what that giving thanks is a form of energy. What that means is that when you say something like “ah it was nothing” you really mean it and don’t actually accept either the thanks or the energy, in fact you push it away.

So you are not in fact accepting the gift that would otherwise come to you in return for something you did for another. So you will have effectively stopped the energy from coming to you and only those who say that others don’t appreciate them feel the lack don’t realize they are the cause.

Giving and receiving energy is important because it keeps it passing on from person to person and it does so anyone or thing you pass by. So it keeps the energy going around so that it becomes bigger and bigger building momentum and abundance as it goes.

Not to mention that acknowledging and accepting of someone’s appreciation of you allows them to feel good too. It gives them a good sense of self and of self worth as well, while sending the high energy of gratitude out to the world at large, and the energy builds that much more.

That one thing alone makes it all worth it but if you will not do it for yourself, you can do it for another. Though in the end you are still doing it for yourself because what goes around comes around again.

Without the giving and receiving of energy through thanks there is no passing it on to another person nor is there any no build. What you have is stuck energy and no appreciation for your own self worth, because it actually puts you down more then you know.

Energy is everywhere in every place and always moving, however you can effetely stop energy from it’s natural flow. Simply by doing certain things a certain way, such as not receiving gratitude or appreciation or by making little of the situation, it lowers the energy.

Some times people do so without even realizing that they are even doing it, while others do so just because it was an example picked up as a child. However no matter why it is done and rather it is done with or without conscious knowledge of it being done, it still effects self worth.

It also has an effect your on self-esteem as well by not acknowledging the good you do and it is not being loving to self either. So know that when you stop giving or receiving/accepting gratitude or appreciation it lowers both the energy going out and the energy coming in.

It may at times stop the energy coming to you altogether because no one wants to be around someone who is negative. Or is not very grateful, a great example of that would be when you give an ungrateful person a gift they might say something like; Well that’s great but I already have that!

Imagine someone actually saying that to you, think about how that would feel and the kind of energy that would follow. Whatever you say, do or think all has an energy of it’s own and you have the power to create the kind ungrateful energy anyone else does.

You also have the power to create the kind of energy that will bring more of what you want through your feelings. It is up to you to decide just what it is that you want more of and what kind of energy you would rather be enjoying.

Though one things for sure you can make it a lot better for everyone for by giving them the gift of loving energy and appreciation.
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Abundant energy and Money October 1, 2009

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For the past month now I have been upon waking every morning taking a deep breath and think about all the abundance I am bringing in. Now I’m going to practice feeling abundance in and around me when I do this, then send it out. It’s a great way to start your day and it makes the rest of your day really awesome, but that aside it brings abundance to in energy form.

Beyond that I’ve been focusing on two other things that work really well, 1. Is whenever I have to pay for something, instead Oh there goes that money I bless it as it leaves my hands. That way it will bless the person who gets it and when they give it to someone else it will bless them and keep going that way.

Now hopefully it will do that for a very long time, but I also know that when I bless it and send it out there. That it will come back to me and so will the blessing that I gave to it and I hope that more people will start doing this.

Because the more that do will not only change their lives, but they will change that of others at the same time. That is what I am looking to do, because it has changed my life very positivity and my energy towards the spending of money.

That is what we all really need to do, so that instead of thinking I really don’t want to spend it it has me wanting too. Because now it’s like a game where when I spend it I get to bless it and which it go and know that it will come so I can do it again and again.

It’s really great because now I have a new creative way to spread more positivity to others and what better way to do it? The second thing I started practicing just this evening also works great with other things as well and not just money.

I was enjoying the nice weather outside and feeling really grateful for it and started thinking how I was blessed to have it. I also thought that while I am enjoying the nice weather I should bless it because I heard that it wont last much longer.

Which brought to mind something really interesting and that is that while I have nice weather someone else might not. Someone else might be wanting some nice weather wherever they are right at that very moment so I should bless it if it has to go.

So when the weather isn’t to my liking or yours, figure that someone somewhere is enjoying some beautiful weather wherever they are. That for me is another great way to enjoy the weather that I don’t find to pleasant and actually find a way to be grateful for it.

It helps one accept that where they are in any given moment is a good place to be and be grateful for it. Not only that but if you think that where I am and with whatever circumstances you are living in are for the highest good of all it helps you let go and trust that all is as it should be.

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Journey’s end time to begin anew September 17, 2009

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When the door closes on something good do you stand looking at the closed door so long and miss the open door? It is usually because you fear change so you stand and wait hoping against all hope that the closed door will reopen and let you back in.

Only once it is closed it will never open to you again because everything you needed to learn from it you already have. There is nothing more for you there but to pick up and move on but what you may not realize is that the closed door caused change too.

So even though you don’t want change and are scared of it you still get it whether or not you want it. It doesn’t matter what way you look at it the closed door behind you is change in and of itself as is the open door in front of you.

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So you try to hold onto the close door as long as you can because you know it and all it holds but the new door you do not. Since it is unexplored who knows what it might hold for you and some times you would rather not chance it.

In childhood I use to hold onto the good times with all my might never wanting to let go for anything. Because I found change so scary and thought that good times were few and far in between.

When I was five or six years old there was almost always places to go and people to visit, friends, cousins and grandparents. As I got older those times that were so fun became fewer and fewer so I started to miss them more and more.

Whenever someone would stop by for a while and leave I got a huge sense of loss and didn’t want them to leave. As I got a bit older I started hating those times and didn’t want to see anyone anymore hoping to not feel the emptiness it left behind.

So much so that I started hating any change big or small and would dig in my feet against anything I didn’t like. Or something that had the appearance of bringing change along with it and when something did I always wanted it to go back to what it had been.

To that degree some of us fear change because at a young age if it gives you a strong painful emotion. An emotion you don’t know how to deal with that comes from change so you will always fear change and be afraid of anything that is in any way related to it.

Thus you get a strong sense of dread whenever you start a new journey or think you are going to start a new journey. Usually you stop yourself from moving forward because you try to hold onto something that you feel is good not wanting to loss it.

At the end of every journey another one begins and at the end you are not only saying good bye to something good. You are also saying good bye to a part of you that you were and no longer need so you can become more.

doorwayOnly the release of good bye can allow you to move on and become more and be who you are meant to be. Journeys end does not have to be sad unless you make it that way instead it can be a joy of saying thank you for all I was and learned and will become.

You can say good bye with happiness for all the journey has brought you and for the wonderfully thought of what is to come. When one door closes another one opens and when you have completed a journey are about to say good bye and move on say thank you for everything.

Let everything that you saw, felt, thought and experienced come to mind and be grateful for it all and move forward. I look forward to every new beginning and gratefully say good bye because there is always one person that come with me on every journey.

That person I know I will always get to take with me no matter what and that person becomes better with every passing day. That person to me is of course me and when you look in the mirror the person that goes with you on all your own journeys is YOU.

Beautiful wonderful you! Always love the person you are and be grateful that you will always be there for everything.

So has ended for me a journey that seems I started a lifetime ago now and yet it wasn’t so long at all.  Now I joyfully start a new one that is even more amazing then the one before because of all the changes I see in myself and in life surrounding.

There is much beauty to see when you are in between the ending of one journey and the beginning of a new one. Look around you the color of everything is brighter and the things you see every day or brighter.

Every has looks the same but has somehow changed because it is you that has changed and when you do. Everything else changes with you, because it is all you and always has been and always will be.

Take a good look.

Down the rabbit hole. A Rude awaking September 11, 2009

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Quite some time back I wrote a blog titled down the rabbit hole where I talked about resentment towards people and situations. To be more exact, people holding resentment towards others in situations they have themselves been in at one time.

One time someone I knew commented on someone’s situation and though he had been through he could relate to the situation. He still talked down about the other persons situation, now you would think that if you had been down a hard road yourself that you could be understanding.

Since I will not give out their names I will call them Jack and Adam, both are smokers and while one still drinks the other is in AA. Both have had their trouble is dating and other things, though Adam is older by four years Jack thinks Adam is an idiot.
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Be that which you want August 20, 2009

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When I grow up I’m get married to the man/woman of my dreams and I’m going to be healthy wealthy, wise and live happily ever after. Sound like anything you have ever thought or said or even heard a friend or a child say?

It doesn’t really matter where your at in life, who your with, how old you are, how tall or short you are. No matter what kind of job you have or what your dreams might be, everything wants pretty much the same thing in life.

To be happy, healthy and wealthy but with life the way it is these days you start working any job you can get. Starting in high school and even if you don’t like it it’s still money and you need it so you do it.

After that it’s into college if you’re lucky and once again usually working any job you can get to pay for tuition. Once you get out of college you can’t always get the kind of job you want and then you get stuck with another job you don’t like.

Then you meet someone who you like and what do you know? The feeling is mutual! You date away then decide to get married. Then there’s a house to buy and payments for everything you can think of from car or truck payment to house payment etc.

Then children come along and before you know it life is flying by you and you don’t any of the things you wanted. Your not anything you wanted to be and your WHERE you wanted to be in your life either.

Sure your married and you have a nice family and a house but with working a job you don’t like and not making enough. Your not happy and because you have to work long hours just to put food on the table you don’t get out enough.

So your health isn’t what it could be or even should be, this is where life sadly enough finds a lot of people these days. Then there are always searching for the things they want that they don’t have like happiness.

Some don’t even get married or have a nice house or the money they want to have either but they have happiness. Some people want love or health or wealth or happiness because not many have all of them at once.

Not everyone wants or needs the same things and so naturally not everything everyone wants falls under the same category. More often then not someone wants love, happiness, joy, peace, prosperity and abundance.

No matter what you want in life something’s can be gotten but it is you that has to give them to yourself. Not someone else because of what we want we already have don’t even know it and we can give it to self.

Other times you need to be what you or in other words, “Be the change you want to see.; you need to think it. Act it, walk it, talk it, see it, breath it and feel it in order to have it, you have must create it.

See most things start in the mind anyway and if you start there you can build it up slowly little step by little step. So if you want it become it and you will have it and find that you have had it all along and didn’t even know it.

So in order to create it, think about what you want, so let us say that it is love you want, feel love even if you don’t believe it’s there. See love, in yourself and be loving and kind to yourself and to others, that’s acting it.

Walk it, take good care of yourself, because you will be able to take care of others that same way someday. It all has to start with you and if you can not love yourself or be loving to yourself then you are no good to another.

See it, look for something to love in yourself and in others and even the people you don’t care for that is your biggest challenge. When you can find even a little bit of love in someone whom you do not care for then you know it’s working.

Speak love in little ways and when you breath in imagine you are breathing in love and feel it so that when you do this automatically. You will know that you are on your way to being what you wanted in the first place and can get it from another because you are no longer “wanting” it.

Because you have, you are it and when people want something all they ever seem to get is more wanting. Never actually ever get it so when you become it you don’t have the want because you are it and you can get it so much easier.

So work with that for a while and not just in that area but use it for the other things that you want that it will work for.

Taking the negative out of the situation August 6, 2009

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Have you ever found yourself putting to much of your focused attention on the negative even though you knew you shouldn’t be doing so? It seems that no matter how positive the person is, at one time or another you can still find yourself seeing the negative from time to time.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will be changed as a result.” Those are never truer words are words I hear so often. If you were to change the way you were looking at something it would change as a direct result of that.

It is our perception of something that makes it what it is, because it is neither positive nor negative and how we see it makes it so. It is said that our DNA, thoughts and emotions have an effect on our surroundings, then it is by our very perception that our reality is created.

If the reality is either positive or negative it is only so because that is what is created by us alone, so the quote above is correct. I had all but forgotten something that always removes the negative side of things for me and allowed me to look beyond what I normally see.

Those are the words that everything you see is perfect, be the situation and circumstances good or bad they are somehow, perfect. In reading those words and remembering to look at things like that once again I realized that in everything that was going on there was so much positive in it.

Sure I wasn’t able to connect to the internet with my computer until it got fixed but feeling that somehow everything was perfect. That it all was exactly as it should be allowed me to stop putting my attention on the things I perceived to be negative.

More then that it allowed me to look at the things I saw as negative and say that if they were negative somehow they were as they should be. So if they were as they should be then what else was there to see instead and I started really looking closely at everything else.

I was then able to really see all that was positive there that I didn’t see before, because I didn’t allow myself to do so. There is always lots more to see if you allow yourself to see it, but when your focusing on the negative your picture is thus limited.

Your really not seeing the whole picture when you focus on the negative, maybe you are not seeing the whole picture if you focus on the positive. It certainly is a better picture to see but it does not mean that you are not able to see everything even then either.

All it really means is that you are seeing the brightest side of the picture and it gives you more clarity to see everything. In its true form, it’s like when you are seeing only one side of something you are missing the best part.

When you focus on the negative you block any and all energy from coming and going so that nothing moves, it just stays the same. If it’s blocked there isn’t any balance and there must be a balance between positive and negative.

If you were trying to manifest something it would not easy to do simply because you are blocking the energy needed to bring it to you. Because you are only seeing one of side things and that side being by far lesser of the sides to see, the negative side.

All you will get from that is more of the same and more negative then you bargained for, that is why change is so important to us. One small and simply change like the way you see and perceive things to be can be an easy answer to the problem.

Acceptance of a situation as is be it good or not so good releases negativity around the situation and allows you to see too good in it. More often then not you are to close to any situation to see clearly until it is past.

If you were to ask someone looking at it from the outside they will have better judgment on the subject then yourself. An outsider sees the whole picture instead of just seeing one side of it and total acceptance of the situation will do the same for you.

That is the beauty of seeing things as they are and feeling and thinking that they are perfect because it allows you to distance yourself. The distance can bring new insight and release negative feelings around any situation and let you see the whole picture.

Removing yourself farther from the situation is how you stand back and look at a picture and when you do that. You are able to learn whatever lessons that were in the perceived “bad” situation.

Don’t wait for something to come along to knock you down before you will step back and see the whole picture. Look for the beauty in everything and accept what is for what it is and if you still can’t see the positive then ask for an outside opinion.

There is something in good in everything that is seemly bad and some times all you have to do is remove yourself a bit. Though trust my word on this it’s there.

Facing the fear of change June 24, 2009

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Change is one of the constants in life and it is one of the most feared things as well. So while you understand that evolution is necessary and might very well want it, you still fear it nonetheless, and may even find yourself putting on the mental brakes when it comes to change.

Why is it that so many people want change and fear it at the same time? If nothing ever changes it will always be the same old thing day in and day out it can be pretty monotonousness.

The reason why most people fear is because like a child scared of the dark not knowing what might be out there you fear change for the reason. The mind (more…)

Setting positive habits to support change. May 18, 2009

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Ever wanted to make a really big change like making a New Year’s resolution? Instead found you could not hold to it for very long?

Everyone has made a resolution to do something and broke it too. As they say, you have to break a really big goal like that into several smaller steps, because it is easier to handle and follow through on.

The reason people don’t keep a resolution is because they make them from a negative place of “I need to do that” instead of doing something because you want. Things get done when they are done from a positive approach, of wanting to do it, which is not the case of the opposite situation.
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Ascending life’s birth right May 7, 2009

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The world evolves at a first rate and as such we have to evolve to keep up with the changing of the world, that is why we need to be constantly learning and changing because both open the door(s) to change in itself.
As children we start out learning right from the start and you continue to do so throughout your life time.
Since the world is evolving at faster rates, maybe now, more then ever it calls for us to do the same and the times call for us to learn at a higher levels then we have before.

And now more then ever we are a lot conscious about the food we eat the cars we drive and the way we dress and the people hang out with. We also ask ourselves what those things do for us over all and if their really good for us after all and/or how they make us to be MORE.

You know internally what you need and what’s good and NOT so good for you, and if those things will give you the higher learning you constantly seek and that’s so important in life. Because without the higher learning and understanding, you will not be able to evolve fast enough to keep up with life and grasp profound concepts.

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