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Teach me how to love unconditional and your heart will never be empty. December 27, 2009

Posted by Gaylena in Empowerment.
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In thinking of years past and lessons learned, about love, life, joy and so many other things, my thoughts finally turned to one almost forgotten lesson. Or should I say the teacher that taught me how to love again without meaning to or asking for anything more then a little compassion.

That being a kitten of gray, black and white color named Kai, one of three kittens and one that no one liked including myself until he won me over. This little guy was just having fun running around and playing on my bed one day when I was cleaning and sorting through some papers.

He saw great fun in making a big mess of everything but quickly changed my mind when I picked up the papers to throw them out. He showed off a sweet side I didn’t know about, after having seen a side of the little guy I’d never seen before I quickly found a new friend that brought no end of laughter and love.

One day in particular I was busy working on completing an article when he found the clothes hamper and fall in scaring himself. When I pulled him out and I had to let him know that he was all right and loved just any child likes to know when he or she hurts him/herself.

It made me think of how even when we have grown into adults we still need to show ourselves that kind of love when we have fallen down. So many times we don’t do that most important and needed little thing, nor do we treat ourselves with the care that you would give to a child.

When you are happy or when sad, mad or glad, you still need to know you are loved and especially so when you’ve fallen. Think of the things you would do for a friend when they are hurting or have themselves fallen down or think of the things you would say to a child.

You can do some of those same things for yourself, you can take care of yourself the way you do others.

Love, like happiness or joy starts with oneself and if you want to love another and/or take care of another. Start taking care of, and loving yourself first, the rest really follows pretty easily, in fact when you learn to treat yourself the way you would treat a best friend. You not only can become your own best friend but you will also find it a lot easier to love someone else.

Unconditional love works the same way, you have to love yourself unconditionally before you can love another unconditionally. There was a lesson for in that very same subject with kitten Kai. Because this kitty wasn’t one that any other person really liked because even though he was really sweet.

He could be OVERLY sweet and didn’t ever stop being sweet, in fact he rather liked to get under foot and want to be petted for hours, when your busy or sleeping. Though the second lesson that stands out brightly for me now is to love despite little corks and despite what others see.

Only you see the things in the people, pets and things you love, only you will ever feel the way you do from loving those things, people and pets. At the same time you will learn to love both the good and the bad, even the 4 AM wake up calls just to be petted or for food or just to say I love you and want you to know.

Every thing and everyone has there ups and downs including yourself but that doesn’t mean you should them or yourself any less. When you love yourself as unconditionally, it means taking the good with the bad and loving yourself and others and realizing that’s what makes you who you are and another person who they are.

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Focus on the good stuff and meet happiness in the middle. December 22, 2009

Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
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The holiday season is upon us, the one thing I have picked up highly from everyone, there has been to much focus on the negative. Or what you don’t like and/or want, we all have a family member or a relative who we put up with, someone that speaks very loudly or puts his/her feet in everyone’s way. Or maybe someone’s cooking you don’t like.

I see to much stress and people thinking about the aspects they don’t like and little or no focus on what’s positive.  One of my all time favorite movie’s is a Knight’s Tale, comes to mind here, it is the story of a man who is a commoner and has a dream of becoming a knight.

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The joy of a healthy relationship with Money. December 14, 2009

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What’s on your mind? I’m sure there are a number of things on your mind that’s understandable but one of the biggest things on anyone’s mind is money. You know the can’t live with it and can’t live without it, and that last statement right there is the problem.

In the first place no one knows how to live with it but they are VERY good at living without it and/or making it not feel welcome. Largely for women, in particular, they have a relationship with money, just like everything else in life be the relationship good or not so good.

Now that does not just apply to women in general, as it also applies to men as well, but women however have a relationship with everything. Take for example the relationship you have with your body be it what it may, if you’re a woman you probably don’t like something about that body.
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Creating your future one day at a time December 12, 2009

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Some time back now I watched a really good movie that I hadn’t seen before and learned some really good lessons from. Paycheck, if you haven’t seen it before I highly recommend it, or if you have you might want to watch from a different perspective.

It is a really good movie and it has some really thought provoking points in it, the one that really stood out and caught my attention was when the main character said that we don’t need to see the future because it robs us of hope.

Not only that, he said that when we are able to see our future and don’t like something about it we would want to change it. Or you might find yourself wanting to avoid it avoid it altogether, so as not to face it at all.

Seeing the future is how things could have been messed up seriously in the movie and if you were to put that example to your life. You can easily see that the same messed up circumstances could happen in your own life if you knew what to expect and wanted to change things.

Think about it if you knew what was going to happen in the future would you still do the same things? I bet not and what if those things that you may not like so much were meant to happen for very important reasons.

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Trust don’t second guess. December 1, 2009

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Have you ever thought about a favorite song or piece of music and wondered why you like it? Or what it is about it that you like? Or how about a dance or a favorite poem? What makes a poem beautiful is first a person to like it and a balance of perfect word flow.

When life itself is at it’s most beautiful it is usually when it is in perfect flow where everything comes and goes as it should. You know this and feel it whether you realize it or not, that perfect flow of life is one of the things that makes you happy without even realizing it.

It is in this way that life is like that beautiful piece of music that touches your heart and soul and speaks deeply to you. Thus being perfect flow like a piece of music hits the right notes at the right time reaching your core giving a perfect experience every time.

This is how life can be when you follow your heart and don’t second guess yourself when you ‘feel’ something and go with it. So often in life we know the right path and yet don’t take it, maybe you were scared or didn’t know if that was the right path or not etc.

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