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Facing the fear of change June 24, 2009

Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
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Change is one of the constants in life and it is one of the most feared things as well. So while you understand that evolution is necessary and might very well want it, you still fear it nonetheless, and may even find yourself putting on the mental brakes when it comes to change.

Why is it that so many people want change and fear it at the same time? If nothing ever changes it will always be the same old thing day in and day out it can be pretty monotonousness.

The reason why most people fear is because like a child scared of the dark not knowing what might be out there you fear change for the reason. The mind always works overtime making up things that aren’t there, change is just as much feared as darkness is by a child.

Because you’re not sure what it will hold for you or if you go against something you do not know if you will be able to handle it or if you will have help if you need it. It is all unknown and most people would rather have a sure bet that everything is going to be all right when they venture into the unknown.

Not much is sure bet but will ever be different if you succumb to the fears that run lose in your mind coming up with things that may or may not even happen. How you look at something is how it will ever be for you until you change the way you look at it.

Like the stormy weather or hot weather is neither positive or negative but your perception of it either way will make it what you want it to be one way or another. The best and permanent change all starts in your mind, when you change the way you look at things the things you see are positively transformed as a result.

A safe bet or fear of the unknown are not the only reasons for not wanting to move forward there is also control, if you don’t know what lies ahead of you then you won’t know what to expect and you certainly won’t be able to control it.

Since you can not know or see what the future holds its like trying seeing the road ahead when it’s pitch black outside. Since you don’t know what’s out there it seems safer to stay inside it becomes light out because you can not be sure of your safety out there.

While control is natural of human nature resisting change won’t give you what you want either and in making that decision you are actually giving up all control you might have had over your situation.

Resistance does not postpone the inevitable because change will still come to you rather you want it or not only it may not be in a way that you will like or want.

“Some times it seems that change is the thing that pushes you from behind when your sacred to jump into the water.”
Change always comes to us and it’s better to face your fear of change and have a choice about what you want to be different otherwise you give up your choice and get whatever comes by default.

The question you need to ask yourself is whether you want to be the one making the choice for yourself jumping in and getting your feet wet or if you are going to wait for life to push or throw you in?

The choice is yours and fear is only in your head and how you look at it so make your first change be in how you look at things, because when you, “Change the way you look at things, the things you look change.” That is one of the best changes you can make.

If positively isn’t a good friend of yours you might want to make it one and turn all of your what ifs or what “might” happen into what won’t happen. What chances or opportunities will you miss out on if you’re afraid of going down that road not knowing what’s down it?

Maybe your dream job or the life of your dreams or maybe you will your soul mate because you’re to scared to venture out of your comfort zone. Like the quote says about harbors,  “A ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for.” – William Shedd

You were not made for safe harbors either, some times the reward is greater than the risk and some times you just have to take a chance on life and yourself and see what your really made of.

That’s one of the best way to overcome any fear, simply face it head on and/or seek it out and make small changes every day or even making leaps.

“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure”- Sven Goran

Some times you need to walk and other times you have to run or jump, if your scared be positive and work on a positive mind set and take a leap of faith step outside your comfort zone. It makes you feel more alive then you would ever imagine.

“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone”- John Maxwell

Remember that when you resist change a couple of things can happen for, or to you, change will still come and you won’t have a choice as to whether it’s good or bad nor how you will be able to handle it.

Two everything might stay the same way for the rest of your life, and that’s fine if that’s what you want, or you could watch others get the success they want and live the life of their dreams while your life stays the same.

The choice is yours and remember that “The key to change… is to let go of fear.”- Rosanne Cash



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