Teach me how to love unconditional and your heart will never be empty. December 27, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Empowerment.
Tags: Empowerment, Love, Power of love, Self-love
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In thinking of years past and lessons learned, about love, life, joy and so many other things, my thoughts finally turned to one almost forgotten lesson. Or should I say the teacher that taught me how to love again without meaning to or asking for anything more then a little compassion.
That being a kitten of gray, black and white color named Kai, one of three kittens and one that no one liked including myself until he won me over. This little guy was just having fun running around and playing on my bed one day when I was cleaning and sorting through some papers.
He saw great fun in making a big mess of everything but quickly changed my mind when I picked up the papers to throw them out. He showed off a sweet side I didn’t know about, after having seen a side of the little guy I’d never seen before I quickly found a new friend that brought no end of laughter and love.
One day in particular I was busy working on completing an article when he found the clothes hamper and fall in scaring himself. When I pulled him out and I had to let him know that he was all right and loved just any child likes to know when he or she hurts him/herself.
It made me think of how even when we have grown into adults we still need to show ourselves that kind of love when we have fallen down. So many times we don’t do that most important and needed little thing, nor do we treat ourselves with the care that you would give to a child.
When you are happy or when sad, mad or glad, you still need to know you are loved and especially so when you’ve fallen. Think of the things you would do for a friend when they are hurting or have themselves fallen down or think of the things you would say to a child.
You can do some of those same things for yourself, you can take care of yourself the way you do others.
Love, like happiness or joy starts with oneself and if you want to love another and/or take care of another. Start taking care of, and loving yourself first, the rest really follows pretty easily, in fact when you learn to treat yourself the way you would treat a best friend. You not only can become your own best friend but you will also find it a lot easier to love someone else.
Unconditional love works the same way, you have to love yourself unconditionally before you can love another unconditionally. There was a lesson for in that very same subject with kitten Kai. Because this kitty wasn’t one that any other person really liked because even though he was really sweet.
He could be OVERLY sweet and didn’t ever stop being sweet, in fact he rather liked to get under foot and want to be petted for hours, when your busy or sleeping. Though the second lesson that stands out brightly for me now is to love despite little corks and despite what others see.
Only you see the things in the people, pets and things you love, only you will ever feel the way you do from loving those things, people and pets. At the same time you will learn to love both the good and the bad, even the 4 AM wake up calls just to be petted or for food or just to say I love you and want you to know.
Every thing and everyone has there ups and downs including yourself but that doesn’t mean you should them or yourself any less. When you love yourself as unconditionally, it means taking the good with the bad and loving yourself and others and realizing that’s what makes you who you are and another person who they are.
Focus on the good stuff and meet happiness in the middle. December 22, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
Tags: Focused attention, Good with bad, Happiness, Holidays, joy, Negative, Positive, Positive focus, Positive Thinking, Thoughts Create
The holiday season is upon us, the one thing I have picked up highly from everyone, there has been to much focus on the negative. Or what you don’t like and/or want, we all have a family member or a relative who we put up with, someone that speaks very loudly or puts his/her feet in everyone’s way. Or maybe someone’s cooking you don’t like.
I see to much stress and people thinking about the aspects they don’t like and little or no focus on what’s positive. One of my all time favorite movie’s is a Knight’s Tale, comes to mind here, it is the story of a man who is a commoner and has a dream of becoming a knight.
The joy of a healthy relationship with Money. December 14, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
Tags: Attitude reflects, Beliefs, Inner abundance reflects, Money relationship, Positive energy, Relationship, Sexy money, Subconscious attraction, Subconscious beliefs
What’s on your mind? I’m sure there are a number of things on your mind that’s understandable but one of the biggest things on anyone’s mind is money. You know the can’t live with it and can’t live without it, and that last statement right there is the problem.
In the first place no one knows how to live with it but they are VERY good at living without it and/or making it not feel welcome. Largely for women, in particular, they have a relationship with money, just like everything else in life be the relationship good or not so good.
Now that does not just apply to women in general, as it also applies to men as well, but women however have a relationship with everything. Take for example the relationship you have with your body be it what it may, if you’re a woman you probably don’t like something about that body.
Creating your future one day at a time December 12, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
Tags: Change, Creation, Future, Hope, Lifelessons, Opportunity, Positive change
Some time back now I watched a really good movie that I hadn’t seen before and learned some really good lessons from. Paycheck, if you haven’t seen it before I highly recommend it, or if you have you might want to watch from a different perspective.
It is a really good movie and it has some really thought provoking points in it, the one that really stood out and caught my attention was when the main character said that we don’t need to see the future because it robs us of hope.
Not only that, he said that when we are able to see our future and don’t like something about it we would want to change it. Or you might find yourself wanting to avoid it avoid it altogether, so as not to face it at all.
Seeing the future is how things could have been messed up seriously in the movie and if you were to put that example to your life. You can easily see that the same messed up circumstances could happen in your own life if you knew what to expect and wanted to change things.
Think about it if you knew what was going to happen in the future would you still do the same things? I bet not and what if those things that you may not like so much were meant to happen for very important reasons.
Trust don’t second guess. December 1, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
Tags: Allowing, Beauty, Contrast, Emotions, Feelings, Flow state, God, Higher self, Music, Release resistance, Second guessing, Source, Trust self, Trust the universe to provide
Have you ever thought about a favorite song or piece of music and wondered why you like it? Or what it is about it that you like? Or how about a dance or a favorite poem? What makes a poem beautiful is first a person to like it and a balance of perfect word flow.
When life itself is at it’s most beautiful it is usually when it is in perfect flow where everything comes and goes as it should. You know this and feel it whether you realize it or not, that perfect flow of life is one of the things that makes you happy without even realizing it.
It is in this way that life is like that beautiful piece of music that touches your heart and soul and speaks deeply to you. Thus being perfect flow like a piece of music hits the right notes at the right time reaching your core giving a perfect experience every time.
This is how life can be when you follow your heart and don’t second guess yourself when you ‘feel’ something and go with it. So often in life we know the right path and yet don’t take it, maybe you were scared or didn’t know if that was the right path or not etc.
Live fully who you are through your spirit November 20, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Empowerment.
Tags: Allowing, Empowerment, Freedom, Harmony, Innerpeace, joy, Positive change, Spirit, Spirit connection
I love things that come from the heart such as a well written poem or a true story or any number of things. That kind of things usually goes straight to the heart of the person reading and speaks directly to not only the heart but the soul and often times the spirit as well.
That is something that my friend Geoff Laughton does with his teachings, in improving your relationship with yourself and others. By giving you fully back to yourself and allowing you to live through your spiritual guidance with more freedom, peace and joy.
Just by simply living from the guidance of your spirit it gives the relationship you have with yourself and others more fulfillment. Personally I have to say that his work is very thought provoking and enlightening as well as allowing for us to become more insightful.
There is a big difference between living from spirit and living by what I would call living by default. One you are by your higher self for your highest good and create your life by your own design instead of living day to day and letting what comes your way, come.
This kind of living leads to feelings of being alone and depressed with no one on your side when the going gets tough. There is little or no joy and freedom can feel non existent and the difference with living your spirit is being your own best friend.
Your more attuned to life and able to allow in the good stuff that is naturally yours anyway, things that seemed difficult before. Are easy to handle because there is no longer the disharmony of self that there was before that caused anxious feelings before.
Over the last few years I learned that if we are not deeply connected to our spirit and let it guide our path in life it can seem like it’s all gray skys. That the sun isn’t shining even when it is and then you are living your life on default and not on purpose.
Your communication and relationship and everything else in life isn’t as good as can be when you are allow spirit to guide you. You really have to broke through your barrier and be who you truly are, life is so much more rich and full with so much more meaning and beauty to it.
Getting back to You is something that is very important.
That is what my good friend Geoff Laughton, helps others do so well, do check out his blog at http://geofflaughton.typepad.com/spirited_musings/ that’s got some great posts you will want to check out.
He also has a fan page which you can find at http://www.facebook.com/LivingYourSpiritNow and you can see what he is up to on a day to day basis. You can ask any questions and get them answered as he checks it daily. Don’t forget to check out his awesome new web site http://geofflaughton.com/
Wishing you live your life guided by your spirit, love and blessings.
Fall in love with the inner critic. November 15, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
Tags: Change, Comfort zone, Emcouragement, Goal, Inner critic, Money, Positive change, Power of love, Relationships, Self-love, Support, Supported
The other day I got my time zones mixed up and missed a training call I wanted to listen in on, that was all right. Because I ended up listening to a different audio that I had but never had the time to listen to it, so since I had this free hour anyway I used it on that.
It was about money and your relationship with it, and how women see money different then men do, in terms of it being a relationship. If you have trouble getting or keeping money in your life it’s very likely because of a limiting belief to do with money.
Which means you need to create a better relationship with it and release the beliefs you have so they stop causing you trouble. There have been points in my life where I’ll want to reach for a goal bigger then normal and I would hear the inner critic sounding off.
I had to search out the source of that negative little voice in my head saying, You know you can’t do that. The trouble I found with it is that it was one of my loved ones sounding off in my head, meaning to keep me from hurt or failure.
That person would say you have all of these other steps to take first, and many of those would revolve around money. Like, “Yeah but you have to have money for that; to me it just sounded like the person didn’t believe in me and that’s what it can sound like.
Even though it wasn’t actually being said, as people we tend to take things differently then the way they were said. Since I didn’t feel supported I kept hearing critical words saying the opposite of what I needed to hear and really it would come from within.
The universe is your playground. You choose the toys. November 9, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
Tags: Abundance, Actions, Beliefs, Cosmic law of attraction, Emotiongs, Law of Attraction, Limitation, Positive thought, Power of Belief, thoughts, Thoughts create reality
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The universe is your playground and you and only you hold you back from the life of riches you truly desire having. Your universe, big or small, revolves around you whether or not you feel you take a big or small part in it, you contribute more then you know.
You influence your world, what goes on in it, the people in it, who comes and goes in it and who stays or leaves. You have the most say in the matter and if you are not taking charge of your life then it goes on autopilot and you less to say about it.
You create your world starting with your thoughts and emotions and the actions you take and all combined create what you see. Such as it may be, will ultimately lead you to take whatever action(s) you take, if your knowledge about things and how they work doesn’t change, your results wont either.
As a direct result of that your reality is very unlikely to change, until you are made aware of the control you hold over your reality. You are the creator and if you want abundance in your reality you have create it and release the reverse.
Abundance is at the edge of everyone’s reality, you need to realize what kind of a world your thoughts and emotions create. Take some time to become aware of the thoughts you think on a day to day basis and not only that but pay attention to your true feelings in anything.
Learn to change the thoughts and emotions from lack and limitation to positive abundance and spend time inviting that in. Just by simply paying attention to how your thoughts can limit you and at times are limiting in and of themselves you change your result.
If you push it abundance away with your thoughts and feelings, you can just as easily invite it in back in with positivity. You need to realize the trouble is not always on the surface and if you find it hard to believe or are uncomfortable believing in something, image what it would feel like to be, have or do that.
It takes a while to believe, but after you realize the simple fact of how you create, it will become easier to notice. As I said before though it may not be on the surface that you are having trouble, because your subconscious mind can cause you just as much trouble.
Your subconscious mind runs on an otherwise unconscious level that you will be pretty unaware of and it can sabotage you. If you come to a point where your desire is within reach and things get messed up for you it’s a good indication of a subconscious belief blocking you.
In this case you can look back over the years to find the source of the problem to find out why you have trouble in this area. The problem usually lies deep within the mind and is usually there because of something someone told you about yourself that isn’t true.
It was just something that was said and you took it as a belief about yourself, but when you find it and realize it isn’t who you are. You can ask yourself what good it has done for you and since it limits you, there isn’t any and you can release it and replace it with a belief that WILL serve you.
Remember that the universe is your playground and it is what you make it to be and you can change it at any time. Make it dance to your rhythm, nothing has to be any certain way unless you choose for it to be so, just as you give any belief you hold power by believing in it.
Want it to work for you? Choose the thoughts, feelings and beliefs that will make it what you want it to be. Be clear about what you want and you get it as clear as you make it.
Change what you think and your world changes. November 2, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
Tags: Acceptance, Authentic, Authenticity, Awareness, Blocked patterns, Changed thought, Clear limitations, Energy, Fully present, Positive change, Self doubt, Suthentic self
“When you clear away a thought pattern of limitation, the quiet you feel after wards is authenticity.”
The above couldn’t be more true and it is a normal state of being that you may not have ever experienced. This is a state of feeling that I have experienced many times and it is what I would call being fully present in the moment.
I wanted to write a note about limiting thoughts and thought patterns after last night’s prosperity call with David and Kristin Morelli.A very good call I might add. I again made another thought pattern, breakthrough and this one I could probably have by myself but never really questioned until last night.
Now I feel a lot of quiet from it as that is the more natural state of being but one that many of us are uncomfortable with. The quiet inside of your head might in fact drive you crazy and so make you seek to be with others because you don’t want to be alone with self.
Though as I said before it is a state of being fully present in the moment to anything and everything around you at all times. Not to mention that when you are fully present the colors of everything are brighter then usual.
Releasing of a negative thought pattern that likely blocked you from your authentic self gives you that quiet fully present state. So that you are better able to attract to you the things that are authentic and in alignment with your authentic self.
Moreover releasing a part of you that is not authentic gives you room for what is to into your life and replace what isn’t. It also gives you room that will need to be filled with what is natural and authentic, whatever that is for you.
It also depends on what it is that you released and how big of a block it was, for me, pretty big, not to mention it had been there a long time. It was doubt, doubt, even without evidence to the contrary.
Have you ever asked yourself why you doubt something that you have no idea what rather it will be true or not? Why do you have doubts or think the way you do about certain things?
Do you ever question why you just start thinking the way you do? Or do you just start thinking and don’t even question it because you are so use to it.
Like when you see someone do something you have never done but have always wanted to and instead of trying it, you doubt yourself. You say; Oh I could never do that, I never thought about the reason behind thinking some of the limiting thoughts I did.
Go ahead and actually ask yourself that, matter of fact I challenge you! I bet if you did ask yourself you wont know why. You just do because you have always done this and have never questioned it, but when you become aware and question it, it loses energy.
It no longer has the same effect on you and like that it you are able to release it because it came the same way. Easy come and I mean really it is easy go, just that simple. Whatever thought pattern you may have that is limiting and you release it, decide upon the best replacement for it.
My thought limitation was doubt, it would come up when I wanted to step outside of current comfort zones. Even when I wanted something or to believe in something more then I was use to having, doubt and ego/fear would kick in and have its say.
So it was last night, when I made a choice and a decision and felt doubt and I asked myself how it served me. It didn’t serve and it wasn’t getting me anywhere and when I paid attention to my thoughts around certain things I noticed doubt creeping up.
This is the cool part about things like that when you stop trying to push back what is there and actually accept it. It loses its hold and you can let it go with little or no problem at all and that was the trouble with that thought pattern all along, it needed to be accepted.
After that it was easy and it needed to be replace with something else, so I replaced it with the thought of already having what I wanted. I started wondering how I would act and think when I had what I wanted, for example how do you act now?
How do successful people act? Think, walk and talk? When you start to wonder that and think, walk, talk and act like someone who is already successful it changes everything.
You can remove yourself from doubt and replace it with thinking, feeling and acting as if you are already successful. That is just what I mean when I say what would I do and how would I think, act or feel if I had the success someone famous has.
I decided I’ve known all along what it is like and that I already know how to walk, talk and act like that. It is to make a choice to do what I want every day and to do that when I want and not when I have to, because it all comes down to choice.
So it is in that way that I already have what I want and the things I do and say and the way I think and act. All reflect that and so it is to say, what do your thoughts and actions say about you and your life? Do they reflect what you want them to about you?
You can always change it starting with your thoughts and the way you walk.
Setting the stage to manifesting greatness October 26, 2009Posted by Gaylena in Positive change.
Tags: Cosmic law of attraction, Emotions, Emotions attract, Feelins, Focus, Focused attention, Manifestation, Manifesting, Positive change, Positive energy, Positive thoughts, Positiveness, Subconscious attraction, Thoughts Create
The law of attraction is always at work in your life always for you attract through the thoughts that you think and your feelings. What you put focus on, energy flows to and you end up getting that whether you wanted it or not.
When viewed from that angle what do you want to attract? Answer that and put your focused energy on it. That is how you will attract it, because you are a magnet and are attractive to the things you want through thought and emotion and focused energy.
Does it seem harder for you to attract what you want then it does simply by focusing on your desires? Yes, there is more to it then that but simply shifting the things you think about on a day to day basis. You will be setting the stage to manifesting better things then you might normally manifest.
One of the best places to start is to be grateful for what you already have in your life, there is much to be grateful for. The great thing about that is there is more good then bad and moreover things are only bad if you give it that label.
Make up a list of at ten things a day every day and be truly grateful for it, it can be as simple as feeling good when you wake up. Give and receive, give thanks and a helping hand and learn to receive, a compliment or something no matter how small. The point is that you can not get what you want until or unless you learn to first receive.
Step into “flow state” often, if you are unfamiliar with flow state or how to access it, it is a high energy state of being. Where everything flows freely both to and from you, where you are able to give, receive and manifest pretty much without effort at fast rates.
The flow state is a perfect state of being and when in it you feel happy and excited it gives you the feeling of flying. It is a super charged state of feeling when you are in it nothing will knock you out of it unless save for not following your feelings.
In order for you to get into this state of bring you have match the vibration and the only way to do that is to changes. Your daily routines is a great place to start and do different things at different times and be spontaneous and go on feeling.
Since flow state is a high energy and vibrational state, two ways to match it is by thinking about fun things that you want to do. Or do those fun things! Having fun relaxes you and opens the doors to creativity and natural flow of energy.
Have fun with little things in little ways throughout your day just makes the whole day better re- energizes you. Try making even the smallest thing fun throughout your day, at the beginning of your day, at lunch time, when you get home for dinner find small ways to have fun.
Remember that your subconscious mind attracts to you what you get and it does so through your thoughts and emotions. So by doing the things you love your asking the universe to match your vibration and you will end up getting more of that.
Some of the best emotions to feel are: love, excitement, joy, passion, gratitude and of course laughter is always great. Any kind of positive emotion tells your subconscious mind that you want more of that feeling and it brings more of that which you ask for when you focus on it.
Like attracts like, it also works the opposite, so have fun! and think about fun things not the opposite. Unless that’s what you really want? Because that’s what you will get, like worry, stress or lack of money, it all creates more of what you don’t want.
Focus your attention on the things that make you happy and that you want more of or just because it makes you happy. Remember that what you focus on expends and feelings of appreciation attracts more to appreciate, be grateful and whatever you’re grateful for, you’ll attract more of it.
Whatever you want, think it, feel it and be around it, really just be the change you want to see, do it through thoughts and feelings. Feel that you already have what you want or think of someone else who does and find an off hand reason to be happy they have it.
It will will change any energy you hold around what you want into that of positive energy and make you more attractive. So that it will be easier for you to attract that which you so desire and in the process you are making it fun by being pleased for someone else.
Remember this if there is something in your life that you don’t like you need to find at least three things about it you like. Or you can try finding a new way to look at that whatever it is that you dislike or even better find something in that “thing” to be grateful for. If your seeing it from a negative perspective then it will only expend in a way you don’t want.
1. Be spontaneous and do something different at a time you wouldn’t usually do something fun.
2. Play and have fun often, not only does it de-stress you but it also makes your mind more creative, so you’re able to solve problems quicker.
3. Think about the fun things you want to do, like go to the beach or go the movie more often or you can even think about where you would like to go on vacation.
4. Try new things often and find new and small ways that you can truly enjoy yourself, and do the things you enjoy greatly as much as possible.
5. Create change in small and big ways. Instead of trying to be someone who can keep others guessing keep yourself guessing instead. By not always knowing what you are going to do next.
Just decide to do something and go for it and pay close attention to your feelings about it, your feelings are so important in the manifesting process. So always ALWAYS pay attention to your feelings and do whatever makes you feel good.